Escapesisum is the worst way to plan our life. sooner or later, we still have to face the very thing that we don't like to deal with.
Take my example, my goal was to be a missionary and to have a family. Instead of focusing on God and letting him to lead me to my destiny, I relied on my own understanding. The result is less than satisfying even though I have the two children I wanted most. If I am in the centre of God's will, there may be risky moments (afterall, what can be safer than in the hands of God, even death). It would be worth for the two to experience the power of God and have their spiritual lives on fire.

Take my friend Yuka's example, she finally had the dream of her life came true - being an air hostess for Japan Airline. But she found it hared to deal with the internal personnel problems. Instead of acquiring the skill to cope with it, she oped for marriage, the result is also less than satisfying.

The same story can go on and on with many people. May be it is human nature to take for granted people whom one supposes to love, protect and respect. May be for many, the urge to conquer and possess or to belonged is subsided. There are other goals in life to turn their attention to. The one who stay home gradually give up more and more say in decision making. May be one feels less contributing to the family because one does not bring in the money. May be our society does not place high value on the work of a home maker. May be it is one's own fault to try to please the other one too much and have oneself backed to a corner. Whaever it is, disillusion sets in, one has to find a way to escape again.